Toomer Family BLOG

Our goal is to celebrate ALL Toomer family members today and yesterday. This blog will include history, genealogy, and reunion news. Additionally we will share our talent in poetry and prose, along with spotlight news on family members.

Sunday, May 14, 2006

Happy Mother’s Day

I Remember Momma

Whether you call her Mom, Ma, Momma, Mommy, Muh, or Mother, she is always remembered with affection. Mothers are different things to different people. We can point to specific times when their care made all of the difference in the world. Often, it is much more than specific events which make us smile when we think of our Moms. Usually it is an encompassing feeling which we can not put to words, or it requires pages of words to convey.

Watching one of my favorite classics on TCM today called, I Remember Momma, helped me to understand a basic reason why mothers are so important. In this movie about a Norwegein immigrant family, Irene Dunne, Momma, use to count out the bills every week. She would create piles of coins, little for the grocer, a little for a doctor bill, a little to replace a child’s wore shoes, etc. After dividing the money into piles, she would happily announce, “Good, we do not have to go to the bank. We have just enough money.” The family of six would rejoice.

This bank account, which turns out to be fictitious, provides a sense of security for the children. They know that if something big happens that at least they can go to the bank and all will work out fine. In this movie Momma does all kinds of seamless things to provide not just things for her family, but a sense of security and well being.

She encourages their dreams. She allowed her children to be children. Childhood is such a short time and everyone deserves to have one. But, she also allowed them to grow and face the realities of life.

Toomer women, by nature, are strong capable women. We can do anything that we set our minds to doing. Toomer Mothers are equally strong and capable and the best security blanket anyone could ever have.

Thanks goes out to all Toomer women today. Raising Toomer children is a cooperative. When we leave our Moms and go to family homes, the security blanket continues. Aunts, cousins, and grands look out for you as if they gave birth to you. Thanks for all that your do. I give an extra special shout out to the Mothers pulling double duty, the ones who have raised children and are now raising grandchildren, nieces, nephews and/ or cousins.

To my Mom: Mom I love you very much. You have raised me with many positive values, which I live by. I often wonder how you did it all. You raised me, carted me from activity to activity, had a full time career, left work to get me from school during my red letter days, and were an officer or member of about 50 organizations. Today many people can barely keep up with their children.

Thanks Mom for realizing that caring about me, also meant caring AND putting your energy into making the world that we live in better. Somehow in your brilliance you realized that my well being was more than the great food that you cooked, and the things that you bought me. To make a better life for me your reach needed to be further than the four walls which contained our home. Through you work in the Toomer family planning committee, social, education and political organizations, you have made a difference. You did more than spout your views about what was going on, you got out there and worked to make things better. You have made me socially aware and morally conscious. This occurred by more than just words but by action. Thank you.

Leave a comment to let us know about your Mom.


  • At 8:51 AM, Anonymous Marianne said…

    Shamele, must you make me cry so early in the morning? Your thank you to your mom touched my heart. You have such a way with words....girl you just ought to write a book about something, anything, your momma, your universal shoe collection, wheat grass, something! :) Love you cousin

  • At 12:46 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Mele, I had to wait a while and try to contain myself and stop the tears from flowing so that I could comment after reading "Happy Mother's Day". I have told you many times that you are THE GREATEST BLESSING OF MY LIVE. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! As our children grow up we wonder if we did enough to give you a good life. We try to instill good spiritual, moral and social values and self confidence. I remember when you were a baby, you loved books and I would sit and read to you ever day and tell you that you were going to grow up and be a self sufficient, independent, dynamic young woman. Boy was I right! You are the best daughter any parent could ask for and I love you with all of my being.


  • At 1:03 PM, Blogger Shamele Jordon said…

    Aw Mom...

  • At 1:05 PM, Blogger Shamele Jordon said…

    Mur I am working on developing a writing career. You and your poetry will be right along with me! Send more.

  • At 2:03 PM, Anonymous Marianne said…

    Thanks Mele, I'd be honored. I got so overwhelmed with your kudos to your mom that I forgot to write something about my own mom who I still miss her desperately. There were times that I wished that she could have had a disease that or sickness that I could have helped her with by giving her a kidney or a lung or something. However, it wasn't God's will and so I've learned to do what she would've wanted me to do, and that is to keep on living. My children were too young to realize what a special grandmom they had, and so I try to tell them and show them through my life that I am all that I am because of her and God. God allows me to dream about her from time to time and those dreams are very special. She usually just pops in and out, gives me a big hug and a kiss and she's gone. The next morning I always feel so comforted and feel like I can go a little further. Family I know you've probably heard this a thousand times, so I'll make it 1001. Do all you can while you can for your mothers, because once they're gone, they're gone.

  • At 2:29 PM, Blogger Shamele Jordon said…

    Now I have tears in my eyes. I love Aunt Susie. The song Jesus is Love reminds me of her.

    I talk to Sista, Aunt Susie and Aunt Ida regularly. When I have an issue I ask them what they think, should I choose A or B. I know what you mean about feeling the comfort. We are very lucky to have such great women in our lives.

  • At 10:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Mur, I loved Aunt Susie and Aunt Ida and Sister as you know raised me and I always felt that she was my mother. Those tree sistas were the strongest women I have known in my life. They were very close. They all put GOD first in their lives and instilled very strong positive values in all of us. They ruled the roost but with gentle hands. I talk to Sister sometimes and I still miss her. I know that all three of them are our Guardian Angles. There were times when I thought about doing something which I knew I shouldn't do, and I could hear Sister say, "Now you know I did not raise you like that"! I also know what you mean about feeling the comfort.



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